For the past couple of weeks, I’ve been noticing a lot of posts on FB where the person had to tag a friend they’ve known since they were 8 or 9 years old and were still friends with them. That was the key point. That they were in fact still friends with those people. More than the post, I’ve been reading the comments. A lot of people commented on them. And in that whole ‘conversation’, the one factor that stood out the most was that barely a handful of them had friends from that age who are still friends with them!
I found that a little sad. I know nothing in the world is permanent. But I do feel there are some things that can last a person’s lifetime and maybe even beyond. When I read those replies it made me think of my friends. I have lost quite a number of people from my life but also gained quite a few. It’s part of life. People come and go just like situations come and go.
But sometimes, in those situations you find true gems. Those gems can be in any form. Maybe someone gifted you a pendant, or a cool new pen, or sent you a handwritten letter or made something, or gifted you a cute little rabbit or a kitten, or even gifted themselves in the form of a wonderful friendship. It could literally be ANYTHING. And these gems can last forever… if you know how to take care of them.
I was lucky. I still am. I found not just one but two magnificent gems in the form of people very early in life. I’ve known one of them practically my whole life. We lived in the same place and our parents knew each other as a result of that. The second gem, I got to know when I was around 9 or 10 years old. That’s 25 years and counting!
As a result of growing up together and being almost of the same age, we learned a lot about each other. We have bantered, we have bickered, we have fought, we have laughed, we have cried, we’ve even had our ‘silent’ zones. But we toughed it out. No matter what the challenge was, we stood together and fought for our friendship. We ensured we were in touch no matter where we were or what we were doing or how difficult it was to do so. We were always in contact with each other.
But the best part of it all was that we got to KNOW each other. REALLY know each other. Inside out. Growing up together helped us grow along with the changes that life brought us. Be it happy, sad, ecstatic or painful. It didn’t matter. Most importantly, we accepted each other for the people we are through all those changes and never judged each other. We stood by each other like rocks. We’ve reached to such an amazing understanding that we can speak our minds freely and know that not one of us will misunderstand and even if we did, we’ll get through it and move on ahead.
Now, after all these years, as life goes on, one is a successful anaesthesiologist (let’s call her C) with barely a free minute to spare for herself. I often tease her asking her what she plans to study next. And the other is in the F and B industry and is one fantastic dad and husband (let’s call him G). C and I just love his kid. He is so adorable and reminds me a lot of his dad. Without whom I wouldn’t be here at all in the first place.
We’ve lived our whole lives together being kids, teenagers, and young adults and now reached the point where one of us is a parent. We’ve been through all these stages of life and we’re going stronger than ever.
So there’s one thing I can say the with utmost confidence that no matter what, we will NEVER terminate our friendship. NEVER give up on each other. NEVER let go.
I just hope that someday as G’s kid grows up, he finds a friend who will be in his life forever too. Just like his dad and his aunt C are in mine.